 
The Dancer's Feelings
|
This is also true about ourselves, we in general as a rule will not stay with someone that not to our liking. Then there are the times when that is not such the case. We stay because of duty and responsibility. That is the worse of situations. When you love someone else yet you are with another person because they cannot take care of themselves. It really hurts when one is the person waiting in the wings. The separation factor alone will drive some insane. But insanity too is an emotional state.
True love is only a myth perpetuated by the romance industry to sell romance novels and the like. Real love is the one thing that people should strive for and women should try to have in their lives. It is not love at first sight even though that can be the way that it starts. Real love is a commitment and a lot of hard work. It is long nights of separation and fleeting moments of enjoyment with the one that you love. It is also being able to have a lot of understanding and communication. Real love is a learning process that is shared by the couple not by just one member of it. I don't claim to be a romance novelist or even a romance expert. I just know what works or at least it does in my own existance.
People can be blinded by the fact that there is no problems in their relationships. Then there are the people that look for them because they have had nothing but bad relationships. In the long run, they wind up in several bad ones and never see when they had the one that could have lasted a lifetime. There are those of us that have been blessed with the ability to wake up and see that a real love is out there for us. I have to say that I have mine. Yet, I am one of those that looks for the problems in a relationship. My lifemate is a very loving man with his own faults does not let me tear us apart.
Experience has taught me that talking out your problems is the single most important part of a relationship. More important than money, sex or even control. Yes there are control freaks out there. But along with the talking comes action. If you tell your partner one thing then, by all means do that. Communication is the highest form of intimacy there is. That and the art of little things. Like when you cuddle with your partner, stoke their hair and face gently. It will mean a lot more than if you kiss them then have passionate intercourse. If you notice in this whole writing of my words I do not specify gender when I am suggesting things that is because not all couples are heterosexual. I happen to think that everyone is entitle to their own private tastes. Mine just happens to be "a very attractive to me" man. In the times to come I will be adding more to my feelings as it progresses.....
